Lessons from 25 years life experience – Coconut oil, birth control and more

I wish I knew all of these things before…

Coconut oil is the cure for everything. Yeah it’s actually the only life lesson I have for you and you can stop reading here. Joke. But you know coconut oil really is great and it makes me sad that I lived without it for almost 20 years. So use coconut oil as your body lotion (best thing in winter!), to remove make-up (hello hormone-free and super baby soft!), to bake awesome raw cakes, to cook a hot dish, oil pulling, cleaning and so much more. Seriously, when someone said if we could pour some coconut oil in the 2016 US election this was more than appropriate.

Everyone has a fear and an inner drive. No matter how beautiful, talented, smart, and lucky people might seem, they are all scared of something. And on the other hand, we are all driven by something. We are striving for joy, fulfillment, power, money, acceptance, reputation, love.  Fear and motivation will always exist and the older you get the more you learn that people are driven by these things. But then again, a lot of things are still unpredictable and you will have to face a lot of new, scary or happy things in your life. There is no way to know it all or have seen it all. Learn to see new challenges as lessons and failure as learnings.

 

’’Good things take time.’’ Ok, this one might sound super annoying but it’s so true. There is no „fast“ diet, short-cut to a healthy body, overnight change to be a better human. No! There’s no need to do something quickly, intensely, or forcefully. Just do it regularly and start somewhere. Do it little by little, but constantly. Take progress pictures or note down what you achieved, so you can see where you’re coming and what you already achieved.

The importance of plant-based foods and its physical effects. I spent my teenage years thinking that it doesn’t matter what I put into my body. I tried to eat some salad and veggies but I would always prefer french fries, chips, and chocolate. When I started eating more fruits and veggies, I got better skin, more energy and during the last three winters, I haven’t been sick at all. I learned that all kinds of ripe fruit and vegetables have an alkaline reaction, helping to neutralize excess acid in the body. Did you know that meat, sugar, fat and dairy products have the opposite effect?

I don’t need hormonal contraception. I’ve seen it all. Believe me, I’ve tried three different types of pills, coil and the hormone patch and it just got worse with overeating, back pain, headache, bloating and much more side effect. Now I am hormone free for 1 year and I’ve never felt better (The whole story @ One year after going off the pill) I think, it was the moment when I learned to ask questions and don’t take everything the way it is. So to all the girls reading this, think about what’s the best solution for you and make sure you know what you put inside your body.

Technology makes it possible. This is strongly related to the point above and I am sure a lot of girls would ask about it. I am currently testing a computer that tells you when your fertile days of the month are based on your temperature. The fertility calculator has an accuracy of  99.3% which is totally amazing for a hormone free solution. I am more than happy to write more about my experience, but I first want to test it for me, before recommending it to you.

It’s ok to speak about topics that are uncomfortable. If I could talk to my 18-year old me, I would punch me in the face and tell me not to overthink every damn thing and speak out what is really going on in my head. Because once my thoughts on a certain topic started (usually relationships), they kept on turning and growing, most often in the wrong direction. Communication makes everything so much easier and I felt so much liberating when I started telling people what I really think. It might be uncomfortable at the beginning but you will get used to it and it’s really rewarding at the end.

’’Yes’’ and ’’no’’ are your new best friends. Learn how to say ’’yes’’ or „no“. Say it how it is. Period.

Changes will keep happening.
Continual stability is an illusion. Everything keeps changing, and I know it can be freaking scary to have feelings of not being able to keep up with the latest technology, trends or social rules. Nevertheless, it would be wrong trying to avoid change because these processes don’t stop even for a second.

 

Thanks for listening and reading, no matter if you are 12, 16 or 60 years old!