I was struggling a long time to find an appropriate title for this post. I changed it several times and I still think that it does not encompass all the things I am going to say here.
Being a role model is never easy. Especially because I did not choose to be one. There are so many mistakes you can make and the more you grow your audience the more you have to be careful about the things you say or do. Because you are watched now. Being watched never really was a problem for me, as I am lucky enough to live in a very humble city and I am surrounded by a down-to-earth family and a bunch of fun and full with „joie de vivre“ people. However, there is a fine line between being watched and being judged.
Well this is a whole other topic I could fill pages with but for now, I leave it and you can jump to my post about „Why I hate being called a social media influencer„.
When I write my blog posts, I always take my inspiration from daily occurrences and I get inspired by real people. This is not an excuse why my posts are popping up rather irregular than steady. Ok, we all know it is 😉 I am a bad liar. But let’s appreciate the quality and not quantity of posts. One of my most read blog posts was my first personal post about me going off the pill. This post was so imperfect and full of doubts yet filled with words that needed to be spoken. I got tons of messages from young girls, who are thinking about stop taking the pill. And I don’t celebrate the fact, that they are actually doing it but I really appreciate the fact that people, in this case, young girls start to ask questions and dispute the topic with their boyfriends, friends or parents. And this is exactly the thing I want my readers to do. To go and ask questions and change things. Not accepting everything for granted and being brave enough to show imperfection while still striving for something that is worth for you. For you as a person and not for your mom or for society. I can give you an advice or inspire you but in the end, it is about what you make about it. If I drink a green smoothie, go and make yourself the same green smoothie and maybe you enjoy it as much as I do. Or you can go and try a red smoothie or a donut. Or you try to go for morning yoga class and find inner peace. Find something that helps you with your daily struggle.
This is where I end and you begin.
You decide what you are doing with the pictures, ideas, words you get from the outer world. You can follow role models, just do me a favor and be sure they are real and don’t pretend to be that perfect shiny person with no flaws and no cravings for chocolate. It’s a joke 😉
I mean, yes I love to eat veggies and grains and super healthy things just as soaked buckwheat porridge or green smoothies. I eat that stuff because (guess what!) I really like it. I don’t have to force myself to eat it, because I have the power to go into my kitchen and create something I really like with real ingredients. Everyone can. But I also eat other stuff, such as store-bought vegan Nutella or Cookies, a sandwich, a Thai curry sauce. All processed foods but so what? I try to eat as much „clean“ things as possible but my aim is not to strive for 100% clean eating or perfection because I think that is very unhealthy for your mind!
I read so many captions on Instagram from people saying: Don’t eat salt!, cut out oil!, no carbs after 4! if carbs, make sure they are filled with nutrients! Have you checked the calories? There is an E-number in there! It’s vegan, but is it healthy?, the sugar amount is quite high, better not eat it!
and I think…
I DO AND EAT WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT!
Seriously, if you want to stick to an oil-free, sugar-free, salt-free, processed food free, fun-free diet, go ahead, but here again, I am using the word, it is balance! It makes me wanna puke, when I hear people saying that they should stop eating dinner with people who eat meat or put salt on their food. People who cannot go to meet friends in a restaurant because there is nothing without salt, sugar on the menu except water. How dangerous is it to tell this to a young girl or boy, who is already confused in a world where she or he tries to fit in?
I think Instagram and all these Social Media Channels need more imperfection and truth. I know I already said this a year ago and I still believe in it. A year ago, I changed my Instagram and Blog from a pure food page with perfect food pictures to a human page. A „me“ page with everything that surrounds me. Want to know what happened since then? I’ve lost many people who followed me. And that is kind of the ironic on Social Media. Everyone is following these „perfect“ travel pages, model pages, fitness pages ( I don’t blame you I do it as well) but actually want’s to see more reality on Social Media. Whaaaaat? How does that make any sense? I currently see a gap between all these self-love accounts showing more reality and on the other hand the big, picture perfect, „posed“ accounts. Yet again, I am not judging any of these accounts. I mean how brave is it to post a pure picture of you online, where everyone can openly attack you? On the other hand, do you know how much effort it must be for this super beautiful blond woman to stand on the cliff in front of the sea in a bikini making 200 shots just to get one THAT stunning picture?
It is important to see a little bit beyond the obvious. There is nothing wrong with both kind of accounts. What I personally don’t like is people smiling into the camera and promoting things in every single post. But hey, this is just my opinion. Everyone can do whatever she or he want to do. And it is you who decide if you want to see it or not. I am simply asking you to not judge and not build an opinion on what you see. People who post tons of selfies might have a reason for it. There is always a motivation and a driver behind everyone’s actions.
I believe that the intention behind the picture is important. How you feel about it. Showing the people what makes you special by your choices and not by your outer appearance.
Lauren H says
Cool post 🙂 I agree with all of this (not that I’m being watched with my teeny little following)…I don’t understand everybodys immediate need to judge and nit-pick – just do you! Do what YOU enjoy andwhat makes YOU feel good and move on!! 😀
Green Smoothie Gourmet says
I agree with this post so much Lara! I think IG is predominantly a positive place, especially the healthy food community, but I do sometimes see judgements or rudeness that is so unwarranted and leads me to think „What? I don’t see you comment when we are being supportive and generous, but now you feel you can jump in here and be rude and mean?“ Perhaps they are just reacting to the post personally, but as you say, read and move on, and praise or don’t, but stop judging..
You are so good at advising people how to act and feel, especially when dealing with social media. Perhaps book on these topics in your future? Dee. xx
Lara, das ist so ein wunderschöner und ehrlicher Post. Danke dafür. Du hast so verdammt Recht, mit ALL deinen Worten in diesem Text. Mach weiter so und bleib so authentisch :*
Sisley Killam says
Hi Lara! So I signed up for Gourmetads since you recommended it in your Blogging tips. I was wondering if you know how/where to add the „Privacy Page“ for my blog? It says I need one…thanks in advance!! XO Sisley
Hi Sisley, yes you can either put it on the bottom or as a menu point. When you scroll down to the very end of my page you see my policy in the footer: http://vanillacrunnch.feastdesignco.com/impressum/
Hope that helps.
There are so many social media platforms that are slowly becoming more and more algorithmic, aka Instagram. However, I still use it because I surround myself with people that only bring me positivity. Plus, I just don’t really care about how many followers I have because I know that there are plenty of people I know who will support me no matter what!